Potty training is an exciting and stressing process (both on the side of parents and the children) that requires a lot of patience. Fortunately, it is possible to facilitate the process by paying attention to some important issues. Let’s go over the aspects parents should pay attention the most for a stress-free potty training.
* We have already mentioned the importance of the child’s readiness for the potty training. Parents should consider his readiness is not only in terms of psychological development, but also in terms of physical, cognitive and language development. If you want to go over the signs your child is giving you that s/he is ready, you can find the related article here.
* Parents’ psychological readiness for the potty training is equally important. At times, parents tend to have high and over-optimistic expectations for this challenging process. And when the child’s habituation fails to meet the expectations, they feel stressed. Eventually, the stress reflected on the child will inevitably hinder the process. For that reason, having realistic expectations is of great importance.
* Relatedly, parents’ calm attitudes during the potty training is crucial.This process might take longer than expected, you may experience “minor accidents” or you might even need to postpone the training for a while. Please keep in mind that these are all parts of the process. Don’t loose your control and don’t think of giving up.
* One of the most challenging things in potty training for children is dealing with the feeling of insecurity. The toilets we normally use are perceived by children as giant holes which are ready to swallow them. This feeling of insecurity consolidates as their feet can’t meet the ground when they sit on the toilet.For that reason, choosing the right potty/toilet cover for your child to feel safe while using it is another critical point for the potty training.
* One of the most critical points in potty training is that the child should not see his/her feces in the toilet. Children in that developmental stage consider their feces left in the toilet as a piece of themselves. And when they see it there, they get scared. Such an experience for the child is no different than an adult seeing his/her finger cut off on the ground. In such a situation, a child who has come a long way in the potty training might regress and/or even might refuse toilet training completely for a long period of time.
* Last but not least, do not get angry with your child when “an accident occurs”. Try your best to remain calm. Praise and motivate your child to reinforce the desired behaviors. Yet, remember that excessive praise are likely to result in a fear of failure. A warm “Well-done!” would be a good source of motivation. 🙂